Need a bed time story for a child or grandkid? You can hardly beat the biblical narrative of Joseph’s life from Genesis 37 to 50. But, heads up: You’ll want to skip over the PG-13 Judah/Tamar interlude in Genesis 38!
This scandalous story has it all: Family drama, sex, power shifts and a fairly happy ending. In preparing preach to on it this Sunday, I’ve done a medium dive into the idea of levirate marriage, the social custom at the center of the Tamar and Judah vignette.
The idea is that a brother-in-law (Latin: levir) has family responsibility to marry the widow of a brother who dies. This serves to keep land and wealth in the clan and provides protection for widows who might otherwise be out in the wind. It also tends to fade in inverse proportion to female literacy!
I wondered if levirate marriage is, or was, found in Muslim cultures. Turns out the Quran and the Hadith forbid compelling anyone to marry someone else. In one case, Muhammad told a dad who’d married off his daughter that she got to choose! (Oddly, she said she was cool with the marriage, just wanted to know if she had a say!) If everyone is ok with it, a brother-in-law can step up to the plate for his dead sibling.
In spite of the evidence against levirate marriage in Islam, it has been practiced, at least until recently, in a variety of Muslim people groups. This illustrates the tension between cultural practices and orthodox Islam. As in Christianity, sometimes the words of the book are easier to know than to practice.